The night was bliss -a blur of my white dress, his grey tux, and our arms wrapped around each other. They say that your wedding night is just the beginning of the joys of marriage. And they are right. But they are also underwhelming newlyweds.
Because marriage is the joy of sharing laundry and living spaces and bathrooms because you choose. It's the love that blooms in the sweaty throes of yard work, through the pained grunts of moving heavy furniture, under the splashes of interior paint. It's the kindness that surprises you in the depths of night, the first chirps of morning, the full bellies of noon.
Marriage -in it's truest form- happens on the daily, in the minutiae, with little pomp or circumstance. Marriage is the gritty relationship you'll never be able to put into words topped off with some fun vacations and sexy time. Marriage is bigger than your wildest dreams, sweeter than the grandest cake, fuller than the most fruitful of trees.
And so, in honor of five years of the daily, beloved kind of marriage that made me a Thomas, I've shared some superlatives. Nothing like thinking about the last five years in the small (and big) moments:
Learning how to balance our individual goals and how to combine our personal money habits.
MOST MEMORABLE MOMENT:
Hysterically laughing ourselves to sleep at night. This is one of many moments, but they're my most treasured memories of our marriage.
Hazel. (Second best: Jason's boat)
BEST DATE NIGHT RESTAURANT PICK:
Wine tasting followed by our favorite local Italian restaurant.
PROUDEST MARRIED MEMORY:
Getting the keys to our home. I never imagined we'd be able to buy a home in our first five years of marriage.
snapped by the talented Alexes Lauren Photography
Humility, dropping pride for the sake of loving and being loved in deeper, more honest ways.
MOST LOVED SONG:
"Who Are You When I'm Not Looking" by Blake Shelton
Listen to the Dr. Laura podcast and always have a bag of Gardetto's.
MOST REWARDING MARRIAGE LESSON:
Communication. We have seen how hard it is for two people -especially a man and woman who live together- to learn to speak and to listen. This is something we've been really intentional in practicing and it's such a soul-deep reward when we get it right.
Our week in Denver. Tied with our week in Costa Rica (though I'd change a couple of our choices there).
THING I'M MOST LOOKING FORWARD TO:
The next fifty years of him by my side (and then some).
Tickets to a Florida Georgia Line concert for Jason's 27th birthday. He sang along the ENTIRE night and I'd never seen so much joy in that man's face.
Say our final good-bye to my dad last December.
And finally, the question I've asked Jason every single week for the last five years,
FAVORITE THING ABOUT BEING MARRIED:
His provision. I married a man who makes sure I'm provided for before anything else and I'll always, always be deeply thankful (and in love with) that part of him.