Monday, July 13, 2015

cofffee date | 15

If we were on a coffee date, we'd be at Starbucks and I'd be ordering a Valencia Orange refresher because it's so hot out and I need the iced beverage. But also because Starbucks has tricked me all these years by hiding the goodness of it and now they're phasing it out. I'd sort of want to cry while I drink it because I'm dramatic like that, but REALLY STARBUCKS WHY?!?

If we were on a coffee date, I'd try and convert you to beet pesto. I'd agree that the purple is sort of odd at first, but then you put it on pizza and cover it with brie cheese and mozzarella and spicy Italian sausage and you bake it in the oven and then you smile all over because it fills your tummy with the best kind of goodness ever. You can even be a little bit crazy, like we were, and crack two eggs on top of your pizza then delight in the way breakfast and dinner deserve to be best friends. I'd share how I made it with golden beets and it was just as good, but that the color was more odd than the purple of red beets.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd talk to you about death. I know it's heavy and it's weird to discuss this stuff over coffee, but there's something weird about the way death happens. It seems to just show up for some people, sudden and aggressive, while for others it's sort of slow and gentle, almost like it's unsure if it's got the right address. It just baffles me in the mystery of the universe sort of ways. I'm fascinated by it, weirdly, and I'd wonder if there's something in life that just baffles you.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd ask you what needs prayer and spiritual feeding in your life. I think we're all used to asking "how are you?" and getting the canned answers like "good" or "busy" or "tired, but managing". And, well, I just want you to know that I ask in a way that's deeper than that. I don't want to sit on the surface with you, I want to wade in the water, to be unafraid of the depths, to know that we're here in this together (whatever this is).

If we were on a coffee date, I'd probably giggle inappropriately. I'm full of a weird peaceful joy lately... A peaceful joy that says "Hakuna Matata" and just leaves a silly smile on my face. I'm thankful for it, not worried or wondering when it's going to end, because it's just here and it's unexpected and it's lovely, just lovely. I think that's why I'm busy writing and painting and making and reading. Enjoy, that's my job right now, and it's yours too.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd offer you a love letter. Not the mushy business that we think of as love letters, but the encouraging kind of goodness. It would be written by hand with my favorite pen and probably have doodles around the corners. I'd ask you how often you get a little bit of unquestioning encouragement in your life and I'd tell you that you need more. So, this. This from me to you every week.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd want to know all your favorite quotes. SERIOUSLY. Because I love words and I'm practicing my handlettering and I just love to read (and write) the beautiful things that you enjoy. I'd tell you that I've always (since I was 18 years old) loved this one:
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." -Anais Nin
But that I've also been cherishing this:
"Your problem is how you are going to spend this one and precious life you have been issued. Whether you're going to spend it trying to look good and creating the illusion that you have power over circumstances, or whether you are going to taste it, enjoy it and find out the truth about who you are." -Anne Lamott
If we were on a coffee date, I'd dare you to try something out of your comfort zone. I'd make you tell me what your task is and then I'd check in with you later about how it's going. I'd tell you that you can't ignore a dare, but then I'd double dog dare you because those are undeniable in life.


  1. And I would tell you that sometimes i think these coffee dates are just for me! You get me, without even typing for me. I would tell you that life seemed to be falling apart these last few days - a traveling, hard working husband, a sick baby, a toddler home from school holidays who easily bored, a roll of fat around my belly that won't shift if I am eating the fast food and all the sugar, the design course three times a week that is weighing me down with homework and assignments. And then the smile on my face when Mrs Thomas appears in my Bloglovin feed :)

  2. What I would give to be on a coffee date with you right now!
    1) I don't even know what that drink is but you've made it sound so incredible that I might have to order it on my next Sbux run!
    2) You had me at pesto (and then again at pizza, then brie, then sausage...) YUM.
    3) Death baffles me, for sure. I can't wrap my mind around it, the older I get. You'd think it would be the opposite.
    4) My spiritual life is feeling dry right now. I think I'm the one to blame--uninspired and blasé are two words for my attitude at the moment and I need a jolt to reawaken me. Trying to find Him in the middle of this weirdness...isn't that the story of my life?
    5) Your happiness makes me happy. And makes me a little jealous, too :)
    6) You know how I feel about your love letters. SWOON. Can't even handle them. You're my favorite.

  3. Ooh! I want to try that pesto!

  4. Your posts is one of the few that I read from start to finish without skimming because want to read every last one of words. I don't know how you manage to write blog posts so wonderfully. even as a writer, my blog posts are a mess.
    Also, I'd like a love letter. Postmark to Kari in NYC, fan club of one :)

  5. Beet pesto? Two of my favorites in one.

    I've been doing a lot of doodling from old hymns, my favorite is Come Thou Fount.

  6. Oh, I'm trying so hard to be real when someone asks me how I am. Why is it so hard?! I always expect the nitty gritty from other people, but somehow think that I don't have to do the same for the people in my life.

  7. Sigh. Can you just be my neighbor and we can have coffee dates every day? Yes? :) I really love what you said about spiritual feeding. I absolutely agree that a lot of the time we're all so busy that we often just skim the surface. I would love to take the time give and receive with a friend, and just delve a lot deeper. Great insight!!!

  8. I really needed to hear/read those two quotes, so thank you so much for including them. I am in a bad situation that I am trying my hardest to get out of, and it will take some time. But in the meantime. I can still live my life and make the most out of it and not allow myself to sink back into an ublossomed bud, which is exactly what I've been allowing myself the last few months. No more.

    I don't even remember how I found your blog but I feel such a strong connection to you. You express the words on your heart in a way that I admire immensely, in a way I'm trying to dig deep and find within myself. It's inspiring, the words you use and phrases that come out, and it makes me strive harder to look inside myself and pull my true feelings and emotions to the surface. You're the kind of friend I would love to have, one that I could be real and genuine with, have serious talks and not worry about getting made fun of for my "weird" feelings because you feel the same weird way, someone who is supportive but also silly, a real adult friend (they seem so hard to find!). Is that strange? I promise I'm not crazy. :)

    Anyway, this was a great coffee date. I look forward to the next!

  9. Oh girl, they are. Just for you and your beautiful soul. To break up the way the monotony of life can feel and be and seem. :) I'm so sorry there's a sick babe, that is the pits. The pittiest of pits. :)

    I miss your sweet heart Mama.

  10. Isn't Anne Lamott the best? I mean, literally, the best.

    Have you read her new book? I've had it since it released and am feeling drawn to it on my shelf like mad.

  11. Oh friend, I'm so thankful those quotes are speaking truth into your life. I'm thankful to know they mean as much to another person as they do to me because OH MY SOUL there are so many days that I feel just a mess in all the doing and being that life asks for us.

    Bloom sweet soul. Bloom, bloom, bloom. Then come back here and tell me ALL about the gorgeousness that is happening in your life. :)

  12. YES. YES EVERY DAY. Can we have a back porch that we sit on while the sun comes up? Because, I want one of those too!

  13. GIRL, why is it so hard?!? And how did we all end up in the predicament of being afraid to share all the big old things that can feel so heavy and weird?

    Well, we shall be deep water walkers and over sharers here. RIGHT?!?! :)

  14. YES. It's literally the BEST THING EVER. Jason is even really ridiculously in love with it too... Which says something special about it!

  15. Oh Kari this is so sweet to read and to hear.

    Email me your address, I'll send you some love. I promise! ;)

  16. Girl, it's the best. It stands in for pasta sauce phenomenally. And it's just, PERFECT.

  17. Oh honey. Oh sweet honey soul.


    I understand the dryness. I think that's where I am too, but somehow in denial. I just don't soak in Him the way I used to love to do, the way that I'm most familiar with. I don't drink Him in with big, deep gulps the way I normally do. I think it's because I need to restructure some things. I think it's because I need to be intentional with time and space. But I haven't made that leap yet. I haven't and I need to.


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