Wednesday, June 17, 2015

let's have coffee - our monthly date


If we were on a coffee date, we'd be walking in our accidentally matching running clothes and drinking our caffeinated beverages. My guess is we'd have something iced because it's humid and hot in these parts of California. We'd be wandering through the local neighborhoods and trails and counting our blessings and steps.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd tell you I cleaned out my closet using the KonMari method. I'd also admit I was completely shocked by how little I got rid of, but how the act of reorganizing all the things I own was SO INCREDIBLY helpful. I definitely have a better idea of my style (all my shirts are white, grey or black with the exception of five) which -I hope- will make me more discerning when I'm shopping for anything new.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd ask about your dailies. I'd want to know what makes up your morning routine and how it sets a wonderful foundation for you day. I'd press you for the nitty-gritty details like when you pick out your outfit and how, if you have a hair washing schedule, and the themes for your days. I'm interested in routine lately and there's nothing like getting into the mundane intimacy that is routine.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd want you to tell me about audiobooks. I'm an old soul with my love for the physicality of books, but I have set my mind on listening to a book while I'm driving or getting ready or cooking dinner. I downloaded The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd for my #Collaboreads choice and love the two women who are reading it. But, I'm sort of struggling and I want to know if you have a trick or a recommendation or, well, HELP. (I did take advantage of the three free months offered by Helene and you should too.)

If we were on a coffee date, I might cry a little bit because lately I'm just sort of prone to tears. I'm not sure what it is that's got me so feely, but I am and I'm trying not to hate it. Bad things happen to good people and, lately, it just breaks my heart to sit and talk through devastating heartbreak. It's so sad and yet, lovely, because we're enduring -all of us- and sharing and being and coming together.

If we were on a coffee date, I would ask if you have favorite shorts. It turns out I do, these from American Eagle. I want all the pairs in all the colors with all the sale prices -somehow I don't get everything I want at one time. Knowing that I love the shorts (because I've owned a pair for a few years now) makes me confident in the purchase and yet I don't want to spend the money. Why the conflict my soul?

If we were on a coffee date, I'd dare you to tell me your dreams. Jason did this to me the other day, he asked point blank, what my dreams were. And I had no good answer. I mumbled about a book and about creating artful things and owning something I could call my very own little venture and he just looked at me. He looked and nodded and asked me to tell me what my dreams were. I knew I had some and, yet, I had none. So I'm working on that, I'm working hard on that.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd thank you for living your life. I know there's no other option, I know it' can feel easy and fun or nearly impossible, but you're doing it. And it reminds me that I'm doing it too. We're all in a season right now, a season that will change and transform and look wildly different than our current place, so let's set our hearts on a grateful embrace.

25 comments:

  1. American Eagle and Old Navy Shorts are the BEST. I have been eating up audiobooks lately too, it's so much easier for me because after grad work all day, I rarely want to use my eyes at the end of the day!

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  2. this might be a fave coffee date of mine...
    my favorite shorts are banana republic. i have (ahem) three pairs, and i'm at the point of getting rid of the rest. i've been on the edge of minimalizing my stuff, and all these books have been coming out, but i still haven't pulled the trigger on the konmari book...but it's totally on a massive waitlist at the library and i don't want to buy it haha. also, p.s. if you're going to take orders soon, i might need a little something for amelia's first birthday. :)

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  3. I can't delay getting on the audio book train any longer!

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  4. I can't really get into audiobooks. I have to be sitting down doing nothing or just driving in order to pay attention, so most of the time reading a good ol' fashioned book works just as well. So I'm feeling the same way as you! I chose "All the Light We Cannot See" for my #collaboreads book, and (spoiler alert) I'M LOVING IT. Can't wait for the linkup. Can't wait to hear what you think about your book! I've seen it at the library 193 times, but haven't ever gotten it.

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  5. Love these dates. :) I used to be an AE short girl too, but now it's all maternity wear and so many of my old favorites have been put away, hopefully to be seen next year! If those tears you mentioned came, I would remind you that emotions are GOOD - even when they're frustrating - and that this too shall pass. Hugs, friend!

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  6. Ok, is there ever a time you just CAN'T do it because the narrator's voice isn't right? Because I've struggled with that... :)

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  7. I have the same problem with clothes. Even if I know I will love something, I still have a problem buying it! I'm cheap. I think asking someone their dreams is tough. I mean, I have goals and things I enjoy, but DREAMS? I'll have to think about that. Is that like a "where do you see yourself in 5 years?" kind of thing? Or is that something different?

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  8. HAHAHA I haven't actually payed attention to that, but now that I think of it YES

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  9. I love hearing other people's routines, it's so interesting to me. Mine is gym, smoothie, shower, coffee, get ready, more coffee, quiet time then work. It works perfectly for me :) what's yours?

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  10. Beautiful <3 I hope someday we can have a REAL coffee date ;)

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  11. I so wish we could have coffee right now... We just seem to be on similar pages in so many aspects (and then not in others!).


    If we were on a coffee date, I would give you the biggest hug and thank you for your wise words and inspiring nature - all while suffering your own heartache every day. I would thank you for being the Lord's blessing to so many of us. I would tell you that my dailies suck right now and so do my #collaboreads because I am struggling with time and sleep - I seem to be sleeping too much! And I would thank you for getting me to now start thinking about my dreams too because, I also felt a blankness when reading this...
    x

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  12. Girl I love it and have come to realize part of what's weird at first is getting used to listening for the big picture instead of picking out the little bits and quotes that are so lovely... I struggled shifting my approach to the book, but now, LOVE.

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  13. It definitely requires a certain shift in mindset because you're not reading each and every word, but instead focusing on the greater themes... I struggled at first, but now, LOVE. :)


    Also, CANNOT wait to see what you say about All the Light We Cannot See because I have thought about reading it but then just haven't taken the step to do so...

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  14. oh girl yes next year! (and i'm sure a baby will make them look SO MUCH BETTER because EVERYTHING looks better with a cute little bundle of baby.)


    oh the emotions. all the emotions. :) i mees you.

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  15. I'm currently on the hunt for the perfect shorts, but I am right there with you on the defining your dreams! I'm working on a book, but I keep having this nagging feeling to do more -- but I don't know what. Still figuring that one out.


    I'm so excited to see what you do with your Etsy shop! Such a fun idea!

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  16. The KonMari method is EVERYTHING.

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  17. Oh, just you wait... It was a good'un!

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  18. GIRL. YES. Absolutely yes. I can't tell you how much life it has breathed into my closet because I can just say good bye to things!

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  19. Oh girl.... So I JUST got those shorts I had talked about and I'm in LOVE with how they git... And seeing them in the other colors! :)


    Girl, the book: have you thought about sketchnoting? It's this thing I heard about on The Accidental Creative podcast but that there are videos and blog posts about EVERYWHERE. I've been using it and WHOA.

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  20. ME TOO. Can you please come to the west coast next time your in America? PLEASE.


    Let's talk about dreams friend? Let's talk about them ALL over the place.


    My dailies have been redefined with the shop opening. I've been spending a lot of time trying to be more creative and productive... Which is beautiful, but it's also pushing me in SO many directions in the most challenging of ways. I do go to bed at night feeling completely exhausted! :)

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  21. YES PLEASE. Oh how I wish it could be in China with a whole day of running amuck together! :)

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  22. Oh my... This has changed over the last week with the shop opening... But it looks sort of like: run, paint for 15 with coffee, shower, get ready, breakfast and pack lunch, work. I would love to fit quiet time in there, but also realize I can only manage SO many things in a single morning! :)

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  23. That's awesome! I might need to go shopping for shorts soon, because it's June in Houston. So basically I want to melt if I'm outside for more than 5 minutes ;)


    And that's super interesting! I've kind of doodled while I'm thinking before, but never consistently, so I might have to try that! Also, I keep seeing people mention The Accidental Creative podcast, and so I think I'm gonna (finally) sit down and check it out this weekend :)

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  24. Done deal. I've already told MC that the West Coast is next on the list :) I feel a dreaming post coming... It has really made me think! You are such an inspiration to me my friend - you really are such a bold and brave woman who is taking each day, each hurdle and each dream in your stride - making it all happen! x

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  25. Ha! Oh gosh... Honestly, right now having a healthy baby in August is pretty much the only thing I can think about. Anything past then is much too foggy ;)

    *Amanda* | The Lady Okie Blog

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