Wednesday, March 11, 2015

5 Surprises From The Scale-Free Life


It's been two months since I gave up the scale. Remember how I told you about that one time before? It's been two months and I thought what I said at one month would be everything, but that is not so.

When you give up the scale, you learn things. None of these are ground-breaking or revolutionary, but all were unexpected, exciting to know in a way that is deep and true -not just Pinterest quote hearsay. And so, with scale or without, I want you to have the knowledge you deserve. 

1. IT'S ABOUT THE FIT OF THE CLOTHES.
In the last two weeks I've picked out clothes and told myself I'm too fat to wear them. Then, instead of agreeing with myself or asking my scale to tell me True or False, I decide to try them on. Usually, in putting on the clothes, I find that I enjoy the way they look on me, though my body isn't perfect.

2. BODY POSITIVITY ABOUNDS.
I love myself. Seriously, I do. And in a way that is pure and sort of childlike. This is something I haven't had/felt/understood because I've been busy trying to get a damn scale to love me. I still fluctuate between love and wishing I was thinner, stronger, bustier, but positivity > negativity without a doubt. 

3. A NUMBER WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH. 
Like the BMI index (popularly debated in its validity), a number hardly captures a slice of our whole pizza pie. My weight has often determined the worth I assign to myself. No scale will ever, EVER be able to tell me the weight of my soul and my goals and my intelligence. Nope, no scale. And I'd heard that before, but now, without the scale to be my friend, I believe it. 

4. YOUR BODY WILL TELL YOU WHEN. 
The first month of scale-free living had me thinking often of how I would know if I'd gained weight or not. I was a slave to those thoughts, over and over. But then I realized something interesting was happening at meal time. My body was getting hungry. And then saying, thanks I'm satisfied. And I'm hearing it, completely hearing it. 

5. WEIRD, SURPRISING LOVE WILL BLOSSOM.
I really like my legs. And my deep innie belly button. And my hair. And actually my arms are starting to look toned. I have started to feel more adorable in my clothes, more sexy without them -feelings I can say I've really never understood. 

I am looking in the same mirror I did when I had a scale, but without the scale at my feet, I am seeing someone different. I am wearing the same clothes I did when my scale determined how they fit or not, but without the scale under my body, I am seeing someone beautiful and confident. I know, it's a minor change, a ridiculous edit, but it's beloved.

If you've got a scale, have you considered ditching it? And if you've not had one, thanks for letting me be among you, you brave, dear souls. 

27 comments:

  1. Girl, preach. The scale only brings you down, it's so much better to just pay attention to how clothes fit and what your body wants. I ditched mine before college and I've never looked back.

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  2. Love this post. In college, I had a professor who was challenged in graduate school to never look at his grades. He got straights A's. Then when he ditched his scale, he was in his best shape and weight. He challenged his students (me) to keep every assignment, not look at their grades until the last week of the semester (just to make sure there weren't any missing assignments) and see what happens. I know I got straight A's and I haven't owned or looked at a scale since I was a senior. He explained that some students/people do better not knowing their grades, weight, or any benchmarks. For some people having a "number" plays with their mind of how little or how much you need to work. Knowing how little can promote laziness and knowing how far you are from that number can overwhelm you. For people with goals, ignorance is the motivation. Being blind to your "numbers" keeps you focused on what is important like the "weight of my soul and my goals and my intelligence."

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  3. I've avoided the scale for a while, only stepping on when I am curious of my weight. I, of course, instantly regret it when I do. I start shaming myself in order, and hopes, to lose weight. I need a more healthy outlook towards this, and I'm changing it by getting rid of the scale.

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  4. I've said before that I used to be completely obsessed with my scale. Daily, multiple times a day, and I knew it was so so bad. So I stopped. I didn't trash it or burn it, but I stopped using it so religeously. Sometimes I get curious and I'll look but it doesn't make me feel the things I used to feel. Basically I just stopped caring about it! Our weight is ONLY a representation of our body's gravital relationship to the earth, NOT a measure of our worth and it would do us good to remember that!

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  5. These are such huge victories! I've been doing my best to be more tuned in to how my clothes feel too. We don't own a scale, but I measured myself for the first time since my wedding 9 months ago just last week and was shocked they really hadn't changed THAT much! Our bodies are brilliant!

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  6. Yayasss! Preach it, lady. I said NO to scales when I stopped modeling and haven't been on one since (except for when I go to the dr.'s - I keep trying to tell them we don't need to do that part) ;) Proud of you!!!

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  7. Yes! I used to weigh daily. Since I got so so so sick, I've been kind of wasting away, so it was actually depressing to see the number go down. I prefer to be strong and have my clothes fit well.
    Before all of this, I was doing more strength training that didn't affect the scale at all, but boy did my clothes fit well. I was able to get back into my "small" wardrobe. I was 15 pound more than when I graduated college, but I could wear the dress I wore to graduation! It was awesome.
    So, now, I don't get on the scale. It's about scheduling in small bits of being able to just stand without getting dizzy and working back :) I just need a few more medical adjustments.
    I'm so glad you shared this. It's like once you get the right habits of eating healthy and exercising, you get more in tune with your body and know when you're overtraining/over or under eating, plus then your clothes will fit right.
    And I could go on for days about BMIs because some of us carry all of our weight in our chests, so we can't get under a normal BMI without people accusing us of being anorexic--even though you are literally at the top of the "normal" range!

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  8. I really don't think we should have scales in our homes. People put too much weight in a number and all it does is bring us down- especially living in the culture we do. God made us perfectly in HIS IMAGE and being so hard on ourselves because a silly little number is really like telling him his creation isn't good enough. As long as we lead healthy lives and feel good about ourselves, what should a number matter? GREAT POST.

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  9. Oh dear soul, I love this beautiful post because I am so right there with you. Someone asked me two years ago, "do you worry about your wright? Because you shouldn't." And i had the FREEDOM, for seemingly the first time, to say, "No. I have other things on my mind. I love me." Beautiful heart.

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  10. Love this post! I haven't owned a scale since I moved out of my mom's house in 2006. I just go by how I feel in clothing and how I look. I occasionally weigh myself at the gym to get a sense of where I'm at. I'm at my heaviest number in my life but I think I'm also the healthiest, strongest and leanest.
    No one should be at the mercy of the scale.
    xo
    Lindsay
    www.theflynnigans.com

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  11. I meant to also add that I love your half sleeve. I've wanted a sleeve, be it whole, half or quarter for a long long time but I work at a securities regulator where I'd have to cover it up. I get away with hiding most of the piercings I have but ink is another story.
    I also love your boxer and... tortoise? Is that seriously your tortoise? If so, SO COOL! By the way, new reader over here hence the excitement. :)

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  12. This is fantastic! My husband and I weigh in about every other week, because we have to (doc's orders, pretty much). We go to the office, weigh in, and get on with life. It isn't easy, though, but it's been a big help not keeping a scale at house.

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  13. Girl, I don't think that I'm going to get back into my relationship with it. Then the whole prospect of future children and things like that is softened because weight just isn't available. :)

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  14. Well, if this isn't the kindest thing ever! :)


    We do have a tortoise, sweet Mo boy, who we actually adopted from an old lady that hand fed him until he kept knocking down her fence... He's a big boy (like 110 pounds) and could put on another 100, but he's been so fun to have! :)


    So thankful you're here! ;)

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  15. Ok this makes me want to go back and redo school all over again. Not really, but sort of, because I wonder what it would have done for me to not feel the "pressure" of the numbers and grades and all the things. I might have been more focused on learning and understanding and working through the hard things than I would have spent trying to do everything just the way it was supposed to be done. :)


    I literally was just telling Jason how I'd love to go back to college and try again because I think I'd do so much better now than I did back then!

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  16. I have been freed. Seriously, it sounds dramatic and sort of cliche but I just don't think about it anymore. On days I feel chubby I try and drink more water and make better food choices. And usually, it ends up being a day thing -like bloat from too much wine the night before- and not something that sticks around and makes me really jump into dieting.

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  17. YES. ONLY a number. I haven't felt the desire to get on it yet and don't know if I'm mature enough to only weigh myself once a month or so, without making it more than that. Regardless, I've learned a lot about myself (something I completely didn't expect!).

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  18. Thank yoU! I feel like they're huge victory too! :)


    I've actually considered taking measures too, but don't want to jump into a relationship with another number too soon! ;)

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  19. I honestly can't believe how it was SUCH a big part of my life now that I don't have it. I spent so many mornings using it as a gauge for my day or my evening and now I just decide if my day is going to be good or not based on my attitude! :)

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  20. YES. Why is it that weighing in at a doctor's is no big deal but at home it can be such a terrible habit?!?! I'm thankful to know it'll only be something a doctor will do in order to keep an eye on health, instead of something I do habitually because I JUST NEED TO KNOW. :)

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  21. NO one should be at the mercy of a scale. Or any number really. And this is such a great way to get started on that! ;)

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  22. YES. The FREEDOM. Oh my soul, yes that is precisely it. I feel free, less HEAVY than I ever did before. And so, the scale just isn't worth it!

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  23. Why didn't we think of this earlier on!?! We could have saved us so much grief!

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  24. YES. It's so much easier to make healthy choices when I'm thinking about what is happening within my body, instead of worrying about what my scale said this morning or that evening. Yes.

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  25. Girl, you're such a gift to me in all of your greatness. The way you do life is so engaged and it makes me want to be more like you! :)

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  26. That's crazy! It's not everyday you meet someone that has a tortoise as big as yours. Fascinating, really. :)

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  27. This makes me very happy I've never owned a scale or gotten into the habit of knowing how much I weigh. I think scales have a place and a purpose--I have a few family members who have been given health-related weight goals by their doctors...but for many people, scales really have no use or purpose.

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