Monday, February 23, 2015

on dating and the like [a letter]

Welcome to you, to you and to your words today. 

The Letter Link-up | Mr. Thomas & Me

This letter is part of The Letter Link-Up. They are written to remember mundane moments that would otherwise slip away, to hold tight to him, and to remember how life looks right now at this very moment with the chance to shed light on your heart. 

While my letters documenting moments within our marriage before children for our children because they won't know us without them, you are allowed to write your letter to anyone, on anything with the prompt being simply a loose and suggestive starting point. 
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Dear Jason, 

We've always loved dating. From the first sushi dinner taking fish and rice rolls off small, moving boats to our latest date at our dinner table with wine mimosas and chocolate chip waffles, we love dates. 

In college, Dating was frat parties in shady bars and small houses, it smelled like cologne, tasted like salty, sneaky kisses. Dating was a boy inviting, a girl obliging, dressing in absurd costumes like a dynamic duo does. Dating met in parking lots to load on buses, dance on crowded dance floors, share cheap beer and expensive cocktails. 

In college, Dating swiped dinner on my food card, walked across campus fingers knotted, waited outside lecture halls in sunshine or rain. Dating wore the latest formal tank, surprises with serenades of "Wonderwall" in the campus' largest dining hall, provided comforting kindness in a university of strangers. 

In Marriage, Dating is different, simpler and delightful. Dating doesn't feel required to curl hair or spritz cologne -though Dating does in the name of romance alive-, Dating isn't worried about impressions or awkwardnesses because Marriage is a fan of comforting affections. Dating isn't marled in preconceived notions and guesses about intentions. 

In Marriage, Dating is about flirtations in our language, pinching butts in busy restaurants, butting knees during church's prayers. Dating smells like clean sheets, ornamental garlic in the front yard. Dating smells like dusty on the air above the trails at our feet. Dating shows up, excited and comfortable with greasy hair promising rewards of craft beer.

Dating is about you and me today, tomorrow, and always. I dated you then. I'll date you now. I'd go back and date you all over again. May this Dating always be our favorite friend. 

He knew what He was doing when He made me for you,
am
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For March's link-up: 
Monday, March 23

The topic: 
On Growing Old
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And now, your turn:

18 comments:

  1. I just love your letters to Jason. So sweet! And it's definitely going to be amazing for your children to look back on ones such as this to get a glimpse on your dating life before marriage and during.

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  2. I love how you described dating in marriage, so true!

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  3. This makes my heart smile. Marriage dating is deeper, sweeter, lovelier in a way I could not have imagined when I was all caught up in the butterflies of normal dating.

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  4. LOVE this letter Amber. One of my favorites for sure!

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  5. Marriage dating is and always will be my favorite.

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  6. I hope you two continue to date each other the rest of your married lives, to sneak those pinches, kisses and knee butts.

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  7. Well this is very sweet! I, like you, met my guy in college. It ain't easy keeping a relationship alive through the stages of life like that. It's strange because you're different people outside of college rather than in it, yet still the same. And you hope like hell that things progress like that always because you know how easy it is to change differently. It's hard to explain, but I get the feeling I don't have to explain to you. That's what I was thinking about while reading this post. How dating is the same yet different through the years.
    Amazing post as always :)

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  8. I love dating as a married couple, there is no great need to impress, and the company is the one thing that is required. I love when it is just us and we can just be with each other. That gets hard when we spend so much time with family sometimes. But I still love dating during marriage, much more than dating as a couple.

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  9. This makes my heart happy! I always love reading your letters to Jason. :)

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  10. Thank you! I really hope that it's something that'll be fun to have as a family... I finally started to write them down in a journal with the pictures attached so we can see them in my writing. :)

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  11. Thank you! It's blown my mind how much things change recently because it seems to be so little by little and then BOOM, we're married and settled in a home and making this craziness all work! :)

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  12. It IS so much deeper and sweeter and lovelier... Even though you might not expect it to be so. :) I have found myself so wonderfully in love with the way marriage is... Something I don't think a lot of people get to see or experience themselves and, well, that makes me sad to think.

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  13. Thank you! ;) My favorite one ever is on YOUR blog. :)

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  14. ALWAYS. Girl you're my soul sister because that's EXACTLY how I feel.

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  15. Pinches always. And I hope one day our grandkids see and die of embarrassment.

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  16. It's so weird how it changes because it happens so slowly you hardly even notice and suddenly you realize things are entirely different, but somehow the feelings are the same, yet better! :) Had you told my college self this is how things would look five years later I probably would have laughed and said not quite, but now, here, I'm thankful and in love with it! :)

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  17. YES. The balance between families and yourself as a couple can be so challenging. It's something we're still learning to navigate ourselves, what time we want/ned to be just us and then the times we want/need to add others to the equation. So far, thankfully, it's been fairly easy to strike a balance though I know one day with kids there will be much bigger things to try and figure out! :)

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  18. Your comments are always the kindest. And for that I am so beyond thankful. :)

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