Monday, February 16, 2015

coffee date 11.0

If we were on a coffee date, I'd make us iced lattes (with Caramel Macchiato k-cups) and we'd sit on the back patio in the sun and watch Mo make his way around the yard. He'd push the legs of our chairs moving us like awkward bumper cars and we'd giggle wildly.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd ask if you have a library card and how often you use it. I'd tell you that I love how Starbucks' baristas know me, but I'm ready for the librarians to recognize me. And I think maybe one day, many decades away I'll try and work or volunteer in the library myself.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd whip out a chapter of the book for you to read. I'd tell you that you could read it later, but I'd want you to read it now and tell me what you think. I'd be nervous and sort of want to puke from the nerves but vulnerability is vital -especially i n this process.

If we were on a coffee date, I would rave about Chobani's Greek yogurt with steel cut oats in it. Not because they paid me to tell you about them, but because YUM. This is odd for me because I hate things with lumpy textures, but the steel cut oats in there are perfect and delicious. Banana-Maple is my favorite.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd want to talk to you about Brian Williams and lying. I'd want to analyze what it means to us when someone we don't know, but do trust, lies to us -us as a nation, us as a person. I'd say I hate lying, but that I've lied before and probably will again. And you'd tell me that grace is great, but lying in such a way as Williams did is an issue. And I'd agree -wholly and honestly. And I'd hope for grace for him.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd offer to paint you a little something. I think it's because I'm busy writing so often, but acrylic paint smells like freedom and heaven to me as of late. I redid five canvases in our bedroom and they make me smile with their color and fun patterns.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd recommend ditching Amazon. We did it, for a month so far, and whoa. I mean seriously, our credit card bill looks ENTIRELY different. And my shopping -a true love of mine- is curbed because not a single thing is as appealing to me when I've got to go find it and buy it and what if the store doesn't have what I want?

If we were on a coffee date, I'd pat you on the back and tell you good job. I don't think we hear things like that enough these days. We're doing hard things, busy things, heavy things, crazy things. And sometimes we need to know someone appreciates our efforts. Affirmation is gorgeous and soul-quenching. We deserve to be pat on the back more often.

32 comments:

  1. Katie @ A Beautiful Little AdvFebruary 16, 2015 at 6:03 AM

    Hi friend, thanks for the coffee and the idea of sitting outside basking in something called the "sun". I needed that on this -23 feel day in PA. I think the idea of patting others on the back is something we call all do a little more of, it reminds us we are all in this together and good deeds and hard work mean something besides a paycheck and checking another day off the list.

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  2. I'd love to read a chapter of your book and giggle at Mo!

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  3. I'm ready for a real live coffee date. Though I love, love, love reading about them, I cant even begin to imagine the amazingness I'd soak up from a real one. But, for now, I'll pretend to soak up some sun with you and Mo, and let that be enough.

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  4. My librarians know me by name, it's funny but a little bit embarrassing because I'm worried they look at the weird assortment of books that I have and think "weeeeeirdo!" I don't have the shelf space or the budget to keep up with my reading, so the library is my dear friend.

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  5. I'd have you read a chapter of my book too! And oh goodness, sitting outside on the porch sounds delightful. It's so cold here today. But at least it's Presidents Day so I don't have to go to work and just stay inside where it's warm! Also, I wish I used my library card more. I use it regularly for the overdrive app so I can check out ebooks - so I guess that counts! But I'd love to actually go to the library more often.

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  6. You always always make me cry. Mainly just with the good job part, because life is hard, and Mondays are hard, and sometimes all we need is a little encouragement. Love you sweet friend and hope that one day these virtual coffee dates become a reality.

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  7. If we lived closer I would definitely take you up on your offer and enjoy an iced latte with you! Not to mention that at this point in east coast winter soaking up some sun would be heavenly! I'd love to talk to you about libraries and maybe start a discussion about how I think everyone should make more use out of the library and maybe spend less money buying books unless they are books they really love/plan to read more than once.

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  8. Oh how I'd love a coffee date, and to read a chapter!! <3

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  9. I want to be on a coffee date in your backyard on the porch with Mo, and read each others' chapters and pat each other on the back and tell each other that we're doing a good job and are awesome.

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  10. Sunshine and iced coffee sounds lovely. I can't wait to read all of the chapters of your book someday soon!

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  11. In our old city, the librarians knew me by sight, but not by name. Our new library offers self-scanner checkouts, so I don't actually interact with the librarians most of the time. It's great for getting in and out quickly, but a bummer for being social and getting to know other people.

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  12. Ditch Amazon?! That is bold, my friend ;-) Although, I am trying to go to actual stores for most of my purchases, it's still so nice to be able to buy books on my Kindle via Amazon when I'm in a hurry! Speaking of which... I really should get a library card. I'm embarrassed that I don't have one, since libraries and book stores have always been some of my favorite places.

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  13. My dream job is to be an elementary school librarian.

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  14. Oh I'd love to be on a coffee date and have a chance to read a chapter! LOVE your heart and the way you write!

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  15. Your writing! *enter hands praising the sky emoji here* Just beautiful.
    If we were on a coffee date, I'd be convinced we were great friends, as I too hope to volunteer at a library one day, understand that vulnerability in writing is not only vital but can be oh so rewarding, and commiserate with your dislike of lumpy textures as I too share this aversion. I'd also beg for a chapter of your book to read, because hello, more of your words :)

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  16. Oh my heavens would you please paint me something? My heart would explode. Because I am so deeply incompetent.

    May I still read a chapter of your book? I promise honest encouragement would ensue as my mind was blown from your gift of word smithing.

    You're so grand.

    Ps. Is it weird if I also do a coffee date post every now and then? I don't really know blogger code because it intimates my hesitant soul.

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  17. Blog HIGH FIVE. At my job, we are encouraged to have "best friends" (aka: someone we can vent to to avoid the craziness). Also, we are encouraged to recognize those around us with a "great job" or "keep it up!". I think that those small kind words often have a great deal of meaning to those around us, without taking up so much of our time. So, dearest Amber, GREAT JOB!!!!!

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  18. Girl that cold. Oh no not that cold. You need sun, sun, sun... But don't come here now because we're having some rain and so it's just a lot of clouds. :)


    I think a paycheck is great (otherwise how will I pay a mortgage?!?) but there's something about feeling celebrated and encouraged for your work just because that is so, so insanely rewarding. And so, I'm trying to say thank you more. :)

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  19. FOR REAL THOUGH. We need to move closer. And sit in sunshine. And have puppy play dates. And drink ALL THE CAFFEINE. :)

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  20. Stop crying because you're going to drown us all.


    I don't even know why that made sense to say, but you're doing an amazing job. Always amazing. Because you're amazing and it seeps from your sweet little pores. Okay fine done. <3

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  21. We are getting rain the next two days and everyone is skipping around high fiving each other because WEATHER IS HERE THAT IS NOT SUMMER WARMTH. The only issue that makes is we all want to put on sweats and hide in our houses because we're all terrible at driving in the rain.... Life must go on! :)


    SERIOUSLY I just got another book from the library Friday (one that I ordered to have sent here and they did it!) and I walked out with the dumbest, biggest smile on my face because it just feels so cool to be a (new and avid) user of a free resource like this.

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  22. RIGHT MEOW. Well, not right meow because it's going to rain and so that's now fun. But right meow because today is burrito dayyyyyy.

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  23. Oh Chelsea you're seriously the sweetest thing in the land. Like when I see your name I know you'll bring a smile to my face. AND YOU DID.

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  24. We have self scanners too! And you just set the stack of books on them and they check them all out at once. It's literally the coolest thing in the land. BUT I've realized I might have fine taste (or at least specific) in what I'm reading and I've been ordering books in from other libraries... Which means they place them on hold with the live librarians for me so I might actually make friends if I keep this up. ;)

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  25. Well, thank you, thank you, thank you. Let's be BFF and hate lumpy foods and drink all the coffee in the land while we sit at the library and overlook the sport's park?


    :)

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  26. NO. SO NOT WEIRD. Do it. Just DO IT DO IT DO IT. I love them because it's simple and beautiful and ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS.


    Can I email you manana with a chapter? Or maybe later today... why am I waiting until tomorrow? I will email you.

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  27. HIGH FIVE HIGH FIVE HIGH FIVE to you and sweet Stella girl. :)


    I think it's awesome to have a work environment that encourages cheering on. I've worked in a couple places where it's toxic, so toxic because everyone feels insanely unappreciated. And, well, no thank you.

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  28. Whoa, our scanners don't check all the stuff out at once! That's so awesome. I still have to scan each thing I'm checking out, just without librarian assistance.

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  29. YES YES YESSSSSS. Please send me a chapterrrrrrr. And your mailing address so I can actually send you a little note. Oh please won't you?

    Also. I may just do a coffee date. We shall see.

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  30. Maybe it's the start of a beautiful librarian friendship!

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