If we were on a coffee date, I'd ask if you have a library card and how often you use it. I'd tell you that I love how Starbucks' baristas know me, but I'm ready for the librarians to recognize me. And I think maybe one day, many decades away I'll try and work or volunteer in the library myself.
If we were on a coffee date, I'd whip out a chapter of the book for you to read. I'd tell you that you could read it later, but I'd want you to read it now and tell me what you think. I'd be nervous and sort of want to puke from the nerves but vulnerability is vital -especially i n this process.
If we were on a coffee date, I would rave about Chobani's Greek yogurt with steel cut oats in it. Not because they paid me to tell you about them, but because YUM. This is odd for me because I hate things with lumpy textures, but the steel cut oats in there are perfect and delicious. Banana-Maple is my favorite.
If we were on a coffee date, I'd want to talk to you about Brian Williams and lying. I'd want to analyze what it means to us when someone we don't know, but do trust, lies to us -us as a nation, us as a person. I'd say I hate lying, but that I've lied before and probably will again. And you'd tell me that grace is great, but lying in such a way as Williams did is an issue. And I'd agree -wholly and honestly. And I'd hope for grace for him.
If we were on a coffee date, I'd offer to paint you a little something. I think it's because I'm busy writing so often, but acrylic paint smells like freedom and heaven to me as of late. I redid five canvases in our bedroom and they make me smile with their color and fun patterns.
If we were on a coffee date, I'd recommend ditching Amazon. We did it, for a month so far, and whoa. I mean seriously, our credit card bill looks ENTIRELY different. And my shopping -a true love of mine- is curbed because not a single thing is as appealing to me when I've got to go find it and buy it and what if the store doesn't have what I want?
If we were on a coffee date, I'd pat you on the back and tell you good job. I don't think we hear things like that enough these days. We're doing hard things, busy things, heavy things, crazy things. And sometimes we need to know someone appreciates our efforts. Affirmation is gorgeous and soul-quenching. We deserve to be pat on the back more often.