Friday, February 20, 2015

I don't know a lot of things, but some things I do.

Softball season is here once again. It comes and goes so fast every time. It will be the third season I sit on the cool concrete steps and razz that one blonde guy who happens to be my husband. Another run of Tuesday evenings watching the game and listening to the teenage daughters of two men on the team sweat all the things I, too, sweated in high school.

And that's when it dawns on me: I don't know a lot of things, but some things I do.

So today, these are things I know, things I knew for surely as I sit upon concrete stairs we call seats on the outside of the chain link that houses a men's softball game.

Learning the hard way is okay. It's frustrating and annoying and avoidable, but it's a perfectly, wonderfully livable way. I've done it -more times than I'd care to share- and I survived. So will you.

It's not a big deal. Whatever you're worrying about, it's not a big deal. Remember how it was grades and boys in high school? Remember how you wanted the trendy clothes and the right hair? And how much does that mean to you now? Nothing. So, that task you're worried about, the budget for house-buying you accidentally broke, the car you want but can't afford -probably not worth your worries, boo.

Leopard print always. If not leopard print, polka-dots or stripes will do.

Most things are flawed, you're allowed to be too. Social systems, clothes, careers, family. We've all got snags and tears in our fabric. The people who say you've got to be perfect have greater imperfections than most.

Own a pair of comfortable shoes. And I don't mean own as in purchase, but own in the do not be any sort of ashamed to wear them out because no day can be good when you're feet are screaming for relief from the torture devices we call stilettos.

Show off. Yes, go ahead and show boat. Because you deserve it. Watching the batters on deck swing and talk smack and practice their batting stance, I realize: these men are showing off. And sometimes when you're on deck and life's preparing to pitch you a fastball, you need to show off your skills.

Listen to your doubts and fears. They are for a reason. Sometimes the reason is stupid and ridiculous, sometimes it's valid and vital. So listen to the reasons and then decide with your beautiful mind. But don't ignore them or stuff them away or pretend they don't matter. They do.

Wear the swimsuit. Rock the big hair. Choose the red cowboy boots. Life's too short to shy away from adventure and let your clothes always be a statement of your mustang-heart. So, do the wild thing with your hair, your clothes, your shoes, your clothes.

Guilt is fear disguised. Guilt comes from where self control fails you and that's scary to think you couldn't stop yourself from buying a third box of Thin Mints. But, as we all know how fear can be, you're not going to die from some Thin Mint consumption. Sure, it'll kill your diet, but DIE is such a large part of diet anyway.

Be your greatest cheerleader. Because we've learned to talk down to ourselves, to discourage and to doubt. But you're beautiful and undeniably talented and you possess great things to give to this earth, so give and do and share. Cheer yourself on.

You see, I don't know a lot of things. I surely don't know everything. But I do know some things.

25 comments:

  1. These are all great! My favorite is "Guilt is gear disguised" so so true

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  2. Okay this is a list I would print and frame for my future daughter. LOVE! Its so funny how we used (and still do) stress over the things that are so small. Big hair and red cowgirl boots sounds like the way to go :)

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  3. These are great things to know, to realize about life. Life is too short to shy away from adventure, and I try to begin my day with adventure with what I put on.

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  4. I love all of these! Thank you for having the heart that you do.

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  5. Amen, amen, and amen! Thank you for this! And yes, leopard print always. No questions asked.

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  6. Leopard print is an ESSENTIAL! And I so very much appreciate you drawing attention to the fact that everything has flaws so we must allow ourselves to have them too. I can often find myself trapped in the mentality that I must do absolutely everything to the highest standards... and in the end that means just one thing: burnout. Forgiving ourselves and our flaws is so important to a healthy mentality in this digital age!! Great post to start my morning with!

    Sed Bona

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  7. We are all tears and loose fabric of flaws. But how we're stitched together is the beauty of it all.

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  8. Katie @ A Beautiful Little AdvFebruary 20, 2015 at 9:19 AM

    Love this! I so wish I could go back and give highschool me a big hug. Mostly owning up to who you are. Love the rocking the adventure of style and admitting your fears.

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  9. Amen to the leopard print. And stripes. And polka dots. And amen to not being in high school anymore.

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  10. Love all of these! Especially leopard print always. Always.

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  11. :) You're my soul sister. I'm sure of it.

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  12. It is WAY too short to shy away from adventure (especially the fashion variety)... I was a tomboy so it took me a bit longer than usual to realize the potential of fun clothes... But now I'm making up for it one day at a time! :)

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  13. I love this. Like I just wrote it down in my planner because I need to remember it.

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  14. YES. Perfection. I am the queen of wanting everything to be just right, exactly right, all right and then I'm worn out and frustrated because it doesn't turn out PERFECT. I've been trying to remind myself there's flaws in it all and, well, that's so freeing! :)

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  15. ALWAYS leopard. Especially shoes, headbands, belts, scarves, EVERYTHING.

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  16. AMEN to not being in high school. :)


    The patterns. Gimme all the patterns.

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  17. ME TOO. I drive by a high school every day of the week when they're going in to classes and sometimes I just want to get out and hug some of the girls who look so worn out and done before class has even started!

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  18. Jason hates leopard print. I don't understand how that's possible. But he does. Thank the good Lord other women understand and appreciate! :)

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  19. Love the first tip of "learning the hard way is okay." That's how I learn best. I'm so glad you opened up and talked about this.

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  20. Those are great! I had to switch into ALL comfy shoes due to pain. It was able to find some cute-ish ones that let me put the custom orthotics in them. Next year, I'll invest in boots for my orthotics. I do miss my cute ballet flats or all of the boots that I collected over the years... :(

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  21. I absolutely love all of these things!!! Especially the worry part. You are so right. Those things we use to stress over seem so small now and I have no doubts that the worries going on in my head will be extra small a few months or years down the road. Love, love, love!

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  22. Ah, most things are flawed - so true! Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't have their 'stuff' together, but it's a good reminder that to be flawed is totally normal, and not the unfortunate exception.

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  23. i feel like you just majorly pumped me up.
    thanks much.

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