Friday, January 16, 2015

coffee date numero diez

If we were on a coffee date, we'd be lazily lounging around the house in flannel pajamas and wrapped in blankets. We'd be drinking whatever you want, but tea has been my jam lately. Mostly because I can drink as much as I want without guilt or the caffeine shakes. Hazel would have her head laying on someone's lap -most likely yours- and we'd laugh at the wild knots of hair atop our little heads.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd confess that we've given up Amazon. We loved OneClick and the app and all the things they make so easy. But it made our dollars disappear so fast. So, in an effort to save, we've given it up. And it's been really nice to think: if I really want that I have to get dressed, go to the store, find it, and buy it. Somehow, things aren't as attractive to have when they require such effort.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd gush about my new Chucks. My dad loved Chucks or at least I've invented the memory that he did. And I got two pairs for Christmas. Black and white. And I'm thrilled about them and don't want them to get dirty because they are so special to me. I think this is partly because I'm not doing any shopping but the grocery kind.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd ask how you beat the 2:00 pm slump. In November it was Coke Zero (yum), in December coffee, and now I'm alternating between the two. But, maybe there's a better way, and well, share.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd tell you I'm not limiting myself this year, but instead getting rid. Yes, no Whole30 or no caffeine or no drinking rules. Nope, no rules this year at all. Instead I'm just taking in, soaking, and enjoying. Because one day I'll be pregnant and enough rules come with that. Because one day there will be kids and I won't have the flexibility I have now. Because I deserve to live 2015 bold and bright.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd be honest in saying editing is hard. I thought writing was hard in November. And then I thought a break was heavenly delicious in Christmas. And then in January: hard and slippery like black ice. I'm going to truck on, eventually, but right now I'm sort of pitying myself because I don't want to throw out words but goodness there's some mess in there.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd share Ella Henderson. Her voice makes me swoon and her lyrics are catchy and makes me want to sing from the depths of my soul. But, I'd want to share with you this: my 12-year-old brother discovered her. Yes. Middle school boy with impeccable taste in music. Ladies are starting to line up now (but protective older sister is beating them off).

If we were on a coffee date, I'd say grace not perfection. Because that's the theme of my life right now. Maybe it's part of savoring the year that's settled into my heart so quickly, but grace over perfection. Also I've grown a massive girl crush on the adorable Emily Ley because her heart is gold, her planner is awesome, and her lockscreen is my favorite reminder.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd be shy about praying for you. But I would, because that's part of being in deep water together. I'd sort of blush as I ask what you need lately in your heart and soul and for your piece of mind. I'd tell you that it's always a sliding scale or so that's how it feels to me. I'd hug you extra tight this time around.


  1. Editing is really hard because sometimes you have to get rid of elects of your writing you love and you don't want to give it up! But, so many times you end up with something you love even more! And given up Amazon???? I would cry. But that might be a sign I need to give it up too. Drat.

  2. There isn't a better way than caffeine for the 2 PM slumps. Unless its a donut.

  3. Katie @ A Beautiful Little AdvJanuary 16, 2015 at 8:30 AM

    the only cure I have for the 2 p.m. slumps is a power nap. even at your desk for 2 minutes.

  4. I'm with Natalie.

  5. Hi I like these.

    The 2 pm humps. You know, I used to drink 5 cups of coffee a day. Now I drink 0. Now that's a ridiculous statement and it's more because of a brokenness that exists within my body. But in turn, I've been drinking 15 thousand times the amount of water. And the slumps at 2-3 pm aren't as bad. is warm. So now I do tea.

    Also. All about grace not perfection. I fail at holding myself to a grace standard, but I love remembering GRACE.

    Love your coffee dates.

  6. Love this. You have such a way with words. I am a fan of the Chucks too. I am not big online shopper but I definitely have been feeling the need to cut back spending in general. I am going to attempt do Frugal February next month. Fingers crossed. ;)

  7. 2pm slump is the worst. Gah, I've tried everything and I cannot beat it. Love the part about not living your life around rules, you're so right. I'm making an effort to do this too. Good luck with the writing and editing, I know you can make it happen girl <3

  8. i like you and your no rules 2015.
    i think i shall join you.

  9. it literally is the WORST THING. but i've started giving myself a pass a few days a week to be caffeinated all over the place because productivity. :)

  10. I feel like I'm sort of doing frugal february in january... but that i'm also trying to make it more of a lifestyle than just a month thing and, well, challenging for sure! :)

  11. honestly i LOVE the taste of coffee and it's warmth, i don't necessarily drink it because of the caffeine... which makes me a weirdo among my friends but long hair, don't care. :)

    grace has been playing over and over in my mind like a mixed tape. like i need to hear it desperately day in and day out and then i wonder how many years i spent being so hard on my trying-my-best self when i needed to lean into the beauty and comfort that is grace.

    i heart thee.

  12. some days i look under my desk at hazel snoring and ask her if i could sleep there too. usually she just keeps snoring and then i'm very sad and i make coffee. so there's a cool story for you.

  13. DONUTS. or a slice of pizza. or nachos with lots of jalapenos and salsa. basically cheese.

  14. YES. YES, sometimes i want to hoard all of the words. like i cannot delete or remove because MY PRECIOUS WORDS even the words that are terribly put and, oy.

  15. I love that you have set no limits for yourself this year, it's so refreshing to read! Amidst all of the goal list and new year new me bleh. I'm keeping it simple this year too - do more of what makes me happy, rid myself of negative people/negativity, slow down a little - not everything needs to be done now etc, some grace is needed.

    I'm getting through the 2pm slump with coffee mostly :/ although I've started having porridge in the mornings with walnuts, flaked almonds, cacoa powder/blueberries, chia seeds and it is really sustaining me so I don't want a mid-morning snack.

    Good luck with editing your book, it's hard to tear apart something that you slaved over and poured yourself in to. But it will be even better in the end!


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