Monday, October 27, 2014

all the king's horses and all the king's men.



In high school, before Baby Think It Over, there was a week every year where eggs were toted around in miniature car seats, where desktops had bassinets to keep one's b-egg-by safe, where parenthood was demonstrated in a "next best" way. Only in that week would football players skip the high fives, cheerleaders wear backpacks instead of their symbolic cheer bags, couples meet for custody exchanges instead of spit swaps on the black top. The b-egg-bies ruled campus. 

Your grade was dependent on your ability to keep your b-egg-by whole, without a blemish, dent, or scratch. You named it, you gave it a face, for a week, you protected it as the fragile little egg it was against a wild and unruly world.

I hated that week. Everyone was so edgy about their egg, so over-concerned with their grade.

Fragility annoyed me.

In youth group, our hearts were like the eggs. Needing to be guarded, to be protected, to be safe-kept. There were monthly suggestions and sermons on how to do this just right, how to be pure, how to be the perfect gift for your future spouse. Books were released daring us to kiss dating goodbye, encouraging us to be beautiful ladies-in-wait, discouraging dating because it is just so casual. Your heart, it's a fragile thing not meant to be broken, only made whole by the one He made for you.

Fragility disturbed me.

I knew God made us to endure hard things. He made us to live in a world, broken and sinful, in flesh that is stubborn and wild.  Our flesh can be beat. Illness and disease are probable. Age will slow us, aches will befall us, circumstance will muck up the plans. But our spirits, they are anything but fragile. I believe He made us to thrive in bringing Him glory, not to wilt, break, and die under pressure or storm or frustration.

Fragility isn't me or you either.

We will bend, chip, dent beneath the weight and heaviness of happenstance. Life will bore down on us like the sun on leather sandals, leaving marks, lines, patterns, but it is those very things that make us each unique in Him. We weren't meant to live protected, in our zone of comfort and ease. We weren't promised perfection, a buffer of spirit and peace. Instead, we were dared to do the hard shit, baring the heaviest and scariest of the thick.

Fragile's a mindset, not a characteristic.

And in the case that fragility is simply our state. May we remember we're wall-sitting Humpty Dumpties taking great falls, but He is a King whose horses and men can put our splintered selves back together again.
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We are back from Costa Rica (safe and sound) but have been go-go-go since landing, so the recap of our trip and our thoughts on the Rich Coast will come on Wednesday!

11 comments:

  1. I adore this. As a teenager, I definitely struggled with the "guard your heart" mentality, but I never could pinpoint why. As an adult, I now realize exactly why. And you pinpointed it beautifully!

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  2. So thankful that He takes our broken bits and pieces and puts us back together...makes those cracks disappear and makes us whole again. This is too perfect, sweet friend.

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  3. I want all your secrets on how you write so beautifully with food metaphors. It's genius and awe-worthy.

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  4. Beautifully written and very poignant, as always. I love how encouraged I always feel after
    reading your posts.

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  5. I can't tell you how many youth group discussions I've gone to about this topic. I remember at the time I ate it up - but now...I can see the remnants of this in myself and how I'm too careful now. I don't take risks I probably need to. I"m all for not throwing your heart away, but we aren't as fragile as we sometimes think we are! And if we are broken, God does heal us. It makes me think of the song "Just Give me a Reason" by Pink and the singer from Fun. The chorus says "We're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again." I love that. We can be bent and bruised, but it doesn't always mean we're broken. We can heal and move on and love again.

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  6. I remember my friends having the electric baby dolls in middle school, but I've never heard about the egg project...babies are kind of especially fragile, even if inconvenient, I suppose it's good to know ahead of time. But i like reading your thoughts on how our spirits aren't nearly so fragile, or, at least, they can be healed.

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  8. !!! I Margaret Post This Testimony Coz My Husband Is Back Thanks To Dr.Ukaka

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  9. I'm over here, nodding away. When things happen, and they always happen, I would hate for someone to feel like they somehow failed by not guarding themselves enough. Sometimes the most wonderful things happen when our guard is down and we allow ourselves to LIVE.

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