Thursday, July 24, 2014

This is one of my favorite pictures.

Welcome to the Body Talk Link-up with The Other Juliette & me! 

Mr. Thomas & Me

We're spending the day talking about our bodies (not in the TMI sort of way) and health and the way we feel about ourselves because, well, we all have the feels when it comes to weight and curves and all that jazz. 

Go ahead and steal that button up there for your post. Then share your links at the bottom so we can enjoy all the conversation about our hot bods. 
This is one of my favorite pictures with Jason. Dear to me because we're happy, sun-kissed, healthy.

We just left Macy's where we bought Jason some new digs for his cousin's wedding that match the form-fitting dress I can't believe I'm going to rock simply because he says I look sexy in it. We're at a local bar, enjoying drinks, watching college baseball (which neither of us care even remotely about), sharing a trio of tasty, mini desserts. We're sitting side by side laughing about only God knows what while business men talk business next to us. We're probably a little bit annoying -or at least, I'd find us annoying if I was being businessy and these two kids next to me were being flirty.

I've posted this picture on Instagram and Facebook, made it the background on my computer at work and home, set it as the lock screen on my phone. It's a favorite.

The morning after this picture I ran with my mom, like usual. I came home and stripped out of my sweaty clothes and hopped on the scale in front of our closet mirror and I sighed. That number, again, that number. I sighed and pinched those little handles of love on my hips, turned to the side and took in my "pooch" as I so sweetly call it, and sighed again. I sigh when I see that dress -form-fitting and sexy- hanging behind me in the reflection because it's tight, it's sure to hug all the curves, it's intimidating.

I pout silently, internally. I pout because I want to eat like him, drink like him, not worry about my body like him.

I shower, dress, make myself up. I go to work, I do my professional thing. I get an email. An email with a list about hard bodies and such. An email that I'm sure I haven't signed up to receive. But I read it. And it says one mistake women make in dieting is tying emotion to eating. And I remember me, frowning into the mirror, upset because I'm bloated, in love with the picture from those blissful bites and moments in the bar.

Emotions -hot and cold, up and down, happy and sad. I resolve like Alicia. I tell myself no more.

I recognize that there's purpose. Purpose in my running, in my eating, in clothing, in confidence. That being purposeful is more important than being perfect. That I'm proud of my purpose in my marriage being more important, most important than being perfect. Purposeful in my choice to be his, to date over desserts and drinks, to wear the tight dress because it's sexy.

This is one of my favorite pictures with Jason. Dear to me because we're happy, sun-kissed, healthy. Healthy that's more than just clean eats, protein, vitamins. Healthy that's full of joy, spontaneity, life being lived and loved.

And finally, your turn.

36 comments:

  1. Wow - LOVE this so much! I need to remember to look at "healthy" this way too!

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  2. If there's one thing I've learned about going to the gym and working out it's this: it's not about the scale, it's about how you feel. And we all know: Amber has feelings down TO A TEE. <3

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  3. I am the same way... Derek can eat and eat, then LOSE weight. And standing next to his narrow hips and lean legs in pictures - well it makes me feel a little but like a whale. But then I remember my body is something I work hard for, no matter what it looks like standing next to someone else.

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  4. This is great...a true reminder about what's important in life. And p.s. you are a phenomenal writer!

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  5. Emotional health & happiness is just as important as physical health. Thanks for sharing this awesome post!

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  6. Love love LOVE. Perfect definition of healthy right here.

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  7. Katie @ A Beautiful Little AdvJuly 24, 2014 at 7:11 AM

    No matter how many times we tell ourselves that it is WRONG to want to focus on those love handles and that pooch, I think the daily reminder of realizing that feeling beautiful always WEIGHS more than looking beautiful. Perfect bodies do not exist. Cheers to your happiness.

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  8. So true!!! Health begins in your heart!

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  9. ah, the pooch. my favorite part to worry about. i'm definitely in a deep love with my body now, but i think i need to bookmark this for about two months from now when my baby belly has been replaced with an empty, slightly saggier belly. i'll have a lot more to add to the conversation then, i know it.

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  10. Great link up...I think this issue is at the forefront of so many of our minds. I am truing to focus on staying healthy and not focus on skinny.

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  11. I hate that we can just stare in the mirror and tear ourselves down.. I do it too... It is really important to associate body image with the way you're feeling- Love this post. Thank you for sharing!

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  12. I think we all should throw our scales away and eat the foods that make us truly feel good. Not emotionally, but physically. I think we'd all be a little bit happier, but that's not so easy at all. I think if in our hearts we are doing and eating what we like and enjoy why should we be upset. We need to enjoy our bodies, big or small. Let's all just be happy!

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  13. I seriously love the way you write--you have such an awesome way with words. I am a little in love with this post--such a great thing to remember. "Healthy that's full of joy, spontaneity, life being lived and loved." That's the kind of healthy I want to be!

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  17. Thanks to Dr oodlia for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family?

    I am Dr.oodlia, I welcome you all to my world of spiritual temple of solution i want to assure you that what so ever you contacted me for will come to pass with the powers of my ancestors. i want to let you know that i am here to help you in any problem you might be facing, i have been in the field of helping people for over 55years now, i want to let you know that i have helped solving over 7000 people with so many problems in different countries and they have never stopped calling me to thank me for the good work i have done for them. My good work has spread to so many countries, why, is because they have seen my good work and they helped me spread it all over to the whole world. I want to let you know that the moment you contact me just consider all your problems solved because i know that once i commence on your spell work you are going to testify to the whole world here,Email me via address.(br oodliaspelltemple45@gmail.com)

    Are you passing through any of these problems,

    DO YOU NEED YOUR EX BACK VERY FAST

    DON YOU WANT YOUR LOVER TO LOVE YOU AS NEVER LIKE BEFORE

    ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM A LONG TIME SICKNESS

    ARE YOU FACING FINANCIAL PROBLEMS

    ARE YOU SEEKING FOR A GOOD JOB

    DO YOU WANT TO BECOME A HOUSE OWNER

    ARE YOU LOOKING FOR A FIRST CLASS GRADE

    DO YOU WANT TO COME OUT FIRST IN YOUR EXAMS

    ARE YOU A STAR AND YOU WANT TO BE SO POPULAR TO THE WHOLE WORLD

    DO YOU WANT TO BE RICH

    DO YOU WANT YOUR BUSINESS TO KEEP MOVING

    DO YOU HAVE A COMPANY OF ANY KIND AND YOU WANT IT TO EXPAND

    DO YOU WANT YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE TO KEEP TO YOUR WORLD

    ARE YOU FACING ANY MARITAL PROBLEMS

    ARE YOU FINDING IT DIFFICULT TO GET PREGNANT FOR YOUR HUSBAND

    ARE YOU EXPERIENCING MISCARRIAGES ANY TIME YOU TAKE IN

    DO YOU WANT TO COMPETE IN ANY LOTTERY GAME

    ARE YOU FACING HARDSHIP

    HAVE YOU BEEN THREATENED BY SOMEONE

    DO YOU WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN ANY THING YOU LAY YOUR HANDS ON

    IS YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER BEHAVING STRANGELY

    ARE YOU FACING WITCH CRAFT MANIPULATIONS

    DO YOU WANT TO CAST A STRONG LOVE SPELL ON YOUR GIRL OR BOY FRIEND

    DO YOU NEED MAGIC POWERS TO DO ANY THING YOU WANT

    ARE YOU FINDING IT DIFFICULT TO CHOOSE A LIFE PARTNER

    DO YOU WANT YOUR PARENTS TO BE PROUD OF YOU

    ARE YOU EXPERIENCING FAILURE AND DISAPPOINTMENT IN ANY THING YOU DO.(ETC)

    If you are facing any of these problems all you just need do is to contact via email ( br oodliaspelltemple45@gmail.com )and it will be handle with full force and with my oracle and ancestors beside me i want to make you testify just the same way other people did that i have helped. Do not die in pain and silence email me so that your problems will be solved by me with full speed.I want welcome you again to my spell temple.If you have any problem that you want my help for just email me and immediately it will be solved. Here is my email address(br oodliaspelltemple45@gmail.com),.

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  19. Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON i am from germany. i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact hi ,..

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  20. HOW CAN HEALTHY HAVE SO MANY MEANINGS?


    This whole Dictionary thing seems to be really lame in comparison to the real life thing.

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  21. Girl, lately the feels have been like :(. Like bloaty and frustrating. But then I keep trying to remind myself that I loved the fellowship happening around our dinner table so my heart and soul are all kinds of healthy.

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  22. WHY DO THEY HAVE SUPER STOMACHS? Last night Jason ate 1/2 pint of ice cream and four smores. I had one. Guess who's bloated today? But guess who also got her tush out of bed and ran 5 miles in the humid, hot heat? In my head: I WIN.

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  23. Oh Leslie thank you! I might struggle with my body, but then my writing can make up for it!


    Putting your comment in my smile file! ;)

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  24. Just as, if not MORE important. :) I realize that running and working out makes me happy, but that I'm doing it for more than what my body looks like: no, for my emotions and discipline and character! :)

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  25. Ok, so now we must submit this shizz to Websters.

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  26. Perfect bodies DO NOT exist. DO. NOT. Which is what's so challenging because all that Photoshop and shizz makes real bodies look fake... Oh. My. Soul.

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  27. Thank goodness someone else worries about it. I always hear about problem thighs, and, well I have thick legs, but I've always loved the way they carry me around and cover miles and miles... However, my belly doesn't really seem to do nearly as many practical things for me! :)

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  28. Happy is so much more life-giving than healthy. I mean, yes, healthy is important but it seems to come as a byproduct of happy. Hoping that makes some sense! :)

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  29. I'm jealous of their metabolism, but not their body hair or their junk. So, I guess, we win.


    You loving my writing makes me madly flattered. Madly.

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  30. It IS at the forefront of our minds... And why? Is it because of bikini weather? Or tighter clothes now that the weather is warm? Or is this just a year round mess of madness??

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  31. Yes! Associate body image with the way that you're feeling. Absolutely! Rather than standing in the mirror and thinking about what I don't like, I need to focus on reminding myself of the joy that fills every little (or not so little) part of me!

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  32. Let's burn the scales. Or put really heavy things on them so they explode and can't weigh anything anymore! :)


    I do think we'd be a little bit happier and maybe we'd be able to let go of the way we let that number (which is just a single number!) define/determine how we feel about ourselves.

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  33. Oh Rachel, that, from you, is so complimentary and encouraging for me! ;) All kinds of flattered over here in CA.

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  34. I like the idea of exploding them. Throw them all in a big bon fire and drink wine while they burn!

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  35. I'm thinking it's year round madness. I am so guilty though of fearing putting my jeans on after a long summer. A season of ice cream cones with family and drinks with friends can make you dread jeans!

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  36. Thank you for hosting this linkup - I loved being able to participate.
    This post is beautiful. I love the idea of focusing on the purpose of our existence instead of just what it looks like. I think connecting with your loved ones over food is perfectly healthy and extremely meaningful! Why ruin all those moments by worrying constantly about what you look like?
    Thanks again for sharing this wonderful picture and your thoughts :-)

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