Wednesday, May 21, 2014

#MowYourOwnLawn


I've said it here before, I love my life. I'm blessed with a dear family, adorable husband, crazy animal sidekick. My job's mellow and fun, my home's comfortable and cared for, my body's healthy. But, lately, there's this burn that it's not enough, that I want more, the next thing, what's to come. It's replaced the contentment I felt with right now.

Maybe it's the oh-so-cute little girl's next door or the empty room we've sanctioned the future nursery or hormones or all the babies popping up on my Instagram feed or the new SUV I'm driving or ALL. THE. THNGS, but these squishy little babies have me yearning for one of my very own.
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I might have beckoned this struggle with the WANT for our next big thing during last month's Happy Hour Hangout in saying it's vital to mow your own lawn. That, yes, it seems as though the grass is greener on the other side (or sometimes just next door) and watering our lawn is important. Focusing on what we've got here, feeding and growing what's rightfully ours while encouraging the fellow gardeners around us.

But what's vital to a well-kept yard: mowing the lawn.

The weeds, the spots that grow long and wild, the bits that flow from their spot in the yard over the patio's edge -while natural are messy, unkempt, and begging for a mow.
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It's something we've discussed at length. It's not yet time. So that new SUV's got to be seen as a safer ride for me and the pup, instead of a reminder of what I want RIGHT. NOW. There's better timing -says the consensus. Timing that allows for more money in the bank, more travel, more settling into the #ThomasHouse.
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Like our yard where grass grows with weeds, flowers, and all that jazz, so do our hopes and dreams and thoughts. Just as our lawn needs mowing, maintaining, cutting back, so do our hopes and dreams and thoughts.

As summer sun and a little extra water grow my lawn, so does life. As winter dawns and lawns fall dormant under the weight of the cold air, so does life. And with the changes in seasons -weather and otherwise- come changes in the way we maintain our lawns and dreams.
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For now, I mow. I trim away the burn for baby. I tend the beautiful flowers that are blooming in our marriage (and our yard) remembering seasons will change, this married without children thing won't last forever. 

34 comments:

  1. I just wish I had a lawn to mow instead of a parking lot! But I love the analogy.

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  2. Perfect, just stinking perfect! I reference this saying so much more since our chat and I'm thankful because it keeps me grounded (ha ha get it?) There is a time and place for everything and it's not all supposed to happen at once. God has his plan and it should bring comfort to you knowing that he has the perfect timing planned!

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  3. You are such a beautiful writer! Love this analogy.

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  4. Oh my goodness. I absolutely love that analogy. I need to focus on that so bad, thank you for the reminder. I'm sure when you guys decide it's time, or when God decides it for you, it will be a beautiful and very blessed child. Until then, relish sleeping in (when your dog lets you) and having a drink without a care.

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  5. I love this. As always, beautifully written :)

    And just know, you're not the only one with a bit of baby fever right now!!

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  6. i apologize for any angst i bring to the table...i know the feeling in your ovaries when they just ache for that little being. but everything you say is so true...if along with the ache you can also acknowledge that it's not time, then you're right, and it's not yet right for you. but it will be.

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  7. I love this. Such a good reminder--I have days where I can physically feel the desire for a baby in my uterus. And we're on the five year plan which makes the ache so much stronger because I HATE waiting. But married without children is its own unique blessing and I'm sure when we finally have those babies we'll be posting about how much we loved married without children!

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  8. I don't have baby fever, but I do have a preschooler rash, or something like it. But I am definitely trying to enjoy the now and be involved in MY life instead of thinking of someone else's. No matter what, it's all fleeting, right?

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  9. haha I completely agree with this sentiment.


    Great post Amber! You're such a good writer.

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  10. TOTALLY GET IT! My goodness I am so at that point too! I can't wait to be a mother and have kids of my own. BUT it is not the right time for us. It is so important for me to remember that I need to TEND TO MY OWN LAWN and not compare it to other peoples! Thank you posting about this! I needed it this week!

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  11. Oh girl, I can relate.....
    It's hard sometimes being married and without kids- seems like people are always "wondering" when you are going to have kids....
    I am so learning right now to TRUST God with the future of our family....He is so good and has great plans for us as parents someday, just not today.
    I always need to remember that this time of just me and Adam is SO short in light of the rest of our lives with kids, so we are making the most of it...and building a firm and solid foundation for our future.

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  12. I wish I had your patience. I'm going to try to keep these words in mind for the next few months.

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  13. We live in a world of social media, which creates these awful comparisons to other people's lives. I see people getting engaged, getting married and settling down and I long for that myself. But, like you, I continue to mow my figurative lawn (because I'm not as handy as you) and remember that my life is good for now.

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  14. This is such a great analogy! I never really thought about it like that. I absolutely love this.

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  15. This is such a great perspective and daily reminder so many of us need! I tend to peek over the fence at other people's lawns, then cry about my own not being as perfect as I want, right in this moment. It's so true that we need to tend to and mow our own lawns. Watching others just makes us forget how wonderful ours is :)

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  16. I love this!! It's so true.

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  17. Girl, the joy of mowing a lawn is almost like vacuuming and seeing the lines on the carpet... BUT ON STEROIDS. :)

    Come on over to CA and you can take a stab at mowing mine (slash enjoy the sun and wine with me because I'm not all work and no play!)

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  18. You don't even know how much that means. Well, you do because you write too, but you don't even know! :)

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  19. Girl, you STARTED it. Also -PUNS. I love puns. I believe they are one of my many word-related love languages. :)


    Also, I miss your sweet heart.

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  20. Oh Chelsea thank you... Now to keep myself remembering it! :)

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  21. Relish this time. Such a perfect way to put it. Relish this time.


    Lately I've been watching a mama and papa bird tend to a nest of babies outside our front door and there's SO MUCH WORK to do for them. Then I remember RELISH because, well, I'm going to be that Mama one day and, well, once you go baby you never go back! :)

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  22. You should see me with the girls next door (who aren't Playmates, but sweet little babes). I MELT when they come knocking at our door and then have to show them ALL. THE. COOL. flowers that we have growing because what girl doesn't like flowers? :) It's so fun until the little meltdown when it's time to go inside and then I remember why it's okay that we're not there yet. :)

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  23. WHY DOES IT HAPPEN SO SUDDENLY? That's the newest mystery in my world. :)

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  24. I get so heavy with ALL. THE. THINGS. I want to do and dream of accomplishing that I start to get weighed down which defeats all of my best efforts. So, scale back, trim down, and water where I can for the time being... All with a glass of wine, of course! ;)

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  25. It's so hard to feel the burn and desire but know now is not right. Like WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? But, there's reasons and seasons for everything so I'm trusting that there will come a time when it's obvious and right for us. Until then happy hour shall be cherished!

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  26. Oh yes. I can't tell you how many times conversations are about where we're at in the reproductive thing and, well, I feel like I'm so much more than the state of my uterus... I guess it's a good learning thing so I can be more interested in all the things that aren't kids with no-kid-married couples later in life. :)

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  27. Oh girl, patience is not my strong suit. But it IS Jason's so I'm learning. :)

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  28. Mow baby mow. Mostly because you're stronger, brighter, and more awesome than you give yourself credit for. :)

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  29. Thank you Kendra! :)


    I think we can get so bogged down in dreaming up ALL. THE. THINGS. that it makes us heavy and unable to pursue ANYTHING. So, trim, trim, trim. :)

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  30. It's like a surprise that you are DYING to know all about but can't because, well, it's not yet time! :) I know there's going to be a day where I'm overwhelmed with all the noise and need and baby-dom so enjoying what I've got now is vital, but OH MY GOSH they're just so cute and squishy and small so good. :)

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  31. Girl, yes, it's all fleeting. And it's all easy to enjoy when it's just for a few hours, but then bath time comes and they flip out because NO I DON'T WANT A BATH and then I remember that when Hazel doesn't want a bath she just sulks instead of throwing an entire fit and, well, that's that. :)

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  32. IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT.


    Oh wait, that's not nice.


    But, when you have that baby and I'm oohing and ahhhing over it, THEN it's all your fault.

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  33. Oh my gosh peeking over the fence is SO TEMPTING and then you immediately regret it because WHY DOESN'T MY STUFF ALL LOOK LIKE THAT? :) After spending last weekend doing some intense yard work (ripping out an entire planter and redoing it) I realize that keeping it all looking just so isn't as easy as I'd imagined and, well, I'm okay with some mess! :)

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  34. Yes. Hits the nail on the head re: singleness. I have so much going for me. Why do I constantly yearn for more? He always provides. xo

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