Friday, January 24, 2014

Vlog Like A Marital Boss

Obviously the title of this post is meant as a sarcastic diddy. We've been married a whopping two and a half years which makes us experts at learning, not knowing. I guess that's the joy of marriage. Please enjoy. And then share.



Things you learned today:
1. You guys give the best advice ever.
2. Vlogs are awkward(ish) but more fun than anything... Especially since you guys are all so damn supportive.
3. Lipstick finger trick. Sounds dirty, but it keeps your teeth so sparkly clean.
4. We aren't marriage experts (never will be), but we might as well share the tips and tricks that have worked for us over the last few years.
5. WE and ME are allowed in marriage. In fact, together they thrive and grow and create beautiful things.
6. Team Thomas' taste in most things are opposite. Thus why we attract.
7. Relationships are best when you remind one another you're a team, not frenemies or even just plain enemies.
8. Priorities are important and vital in keeping yourselves accountable.
9. Wifely duties are much more Team Thomas duties than just mine. Things work better when we do marriage as a dance instead of a follow the leader movement.
10. Most of my blog posts are written in the car. In my head. Then into my phone. Then into my planner. Then finally make their way into Blogger. Holy smokes.
11. Inspiration for me is like an earthquake. SHAKE, SHAKE, SHAKE. Then nothing.
12. Our relationship is based on a common goal: loving and being with one another. So there.

And finally, what works for you? 
How do you manage time between work, life, relationships, God, blog? 

23 comments:

  1. yes to splitting chores with your partner. there is no way i could do them on my own with a child in the mix! with 2 sets of hands doing things, it's much easier to get everything done faster and have free time.

    kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  2. OMG "Hater be Hatin" ahhahaah great vlog!! I love the "we" part!!

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  3. Katie @ A Beautiful Little AdvJanuary 24, 2014 at 8:27 AM

    Again, great words of advice! Yes, marriage can be hard, we've had some bumpy times during stress and looking at us as a team with the common goal of supporting each other gets us through..eventually :) I think it's all a learning process and accepting the support of each other. And yes to splitting up chores! I don't know WHAT I would do if Ryan didn't do the dishes, bathrooms, and kitchen! I'd much rather cook and make a mess :)

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  4. your chores are split almost exactly like ours. although we cook together and so the dish duties are a little more fluid...can't wait to hear house updates and how the weekend was lady!

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  5. The ME/WE thing is important. I think it's also important to know that some couples do ME more than others. Like for me, I'm very much a WE person. I operate better when my husband is involved, and I prefer him involved in the majority of my life (when I'm done with my alone time...) And that probably didn't make sense. HAHA. Mind babble.

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  6. If ANYONE gives you negative feedback I am going to fight them. So no one say anything rude. I'm a verbal ninja.

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  7. I love your vlogs! I think you should post some recipes from time to time since you love to cook so much. Plus it might be something that you can fill in with when you aren't in one of your inspiration spurts :)


    Also, I kind of stink at cooking and I hate doing dishes, so any help is greatly appreciated! :)

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  8. I love your vlogs & everything you said in this one :) And I have to laugh because all of the things you said make you awkward in your videos are the same issues I have. High voice, talking with my hands & doing weird things with my eyes & where I'm looking.

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  9. theblahblahblahgerJanuary 24, 2014 at 3:58 PM

    You're the cutest!

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  10. This is my first time seeing your vlog. I love it! I use my hands a lot too when I talk. :)

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  11. This advice is SO wonderful! I am definitely trying to learn how to have more of a balance with my fiance in the cleaning front!


    Also, I talk about my signature lipstick in my vlog so if you wanted to see it, head over to watch it!! :)

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  12. KATE! Like the princess?!? LOVE. I'm still working on picking my signature shade… Though I might try for two: one that's a day time wear and another that's a night time wear. Bright red is a LOVE but pink is so easy and practical for me. :)

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  13. Ummm, yes on the recipes! I used to do them more frequently, but lately haven't been so good at it (probably because I've been doing a lot of repeat cooking because we've been busy!)… I do have a couple dishes that I love to make that are SUPER simple that I believe you'd love… Nothing this on my To Do List NOW!

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  14. Oh Jamie, you're sweet… Especially because I know that I can get so awkward slash I do more retakes of these vlogs than is socially acceptable to admit to!

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  15. And I'm so much a ME person… Not in that I want to be alone, but that my interests and Jason's are so different that we can find ourselves exhausted and snippy when we force too much doing the same thing. :) It took a really stressful finals week for us to learn this!


    Thankfully, we also had a lot of things we wanted to try out for the first time after we got married and we've fallen in love with dominoes, morning walks to Starbucks, and murder mysteries! :)

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  16. Oh girl. There's SO much. In both chores and news.

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  17. I always admire women who don't mind doing it all themselves. It's just SO NOT my style… As everyone could probably guess. :) Working as a team -in ALL THINGS little and big- makes everything about life easier. (at least in my marriage book!)

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  18. As soon as it left my lips I was like, AMBER REALLY?

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  19. We don't have kids and I can't imagine what it would be like to do it all myself… Hopefully keeping things split now will help make the kid-transition a little bit easier!

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  20. yes like the princess!!! I like the idea of a day vs night. I think I need to go with a work vs home life, because bright red lipstick and elementary school don't go hand in hand. I haven't found a pink that I like with my skin tone :(

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  21. Loved this one. Yes, two years counts! I got married at 20 and wasn't quite sure of who I was in that relationship. Although it lasted 4 years, we were still kids afterwards and needed to find our own way. It took me some time, but I finally learned one of the most important lessons in a marriage. I tend to share it at bridal parties during the games and stick to my guns in calling it one of the TOP 5 Non Negotiables for marriage. It is: "Learn to say NO nicely." We won't alway agree or like what our spouses or partners are up to, but it is imperative to respect their opinions and ideas and to say no, with a smile, and be genuine.

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  22. I agree, I am totally a Me person too. We don't have a lot in common either in the same ways you two don't. We do have some common ground and we focus on that to strengthen our marriage but we have our separate things as well. I just don't believe one person can be all that you need in life. We need girl dates/man time/alone time to balance it all. It is too much pressure to expect one person to be everything. I totally believe that opposites attract. I wanted someone to compliment me not complete me. I am a whole person and so is he. Yes, we are better together but we are not one.

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