Monday, January 6, 2014

Be Like Mike

I wanted to be like Megan. For as long as I can remember I wanted to be like her. You know her too don't you? She's that girl that was always exactly what you wanted to be, but weren't. The thing about Megan is she isn't one girl in every way, she's every girl in one way or another. 

I wanted to be like Megan because she was humble and smart, yet everyone wanted to be her friend.
I wanted to be like Maraya because she had those to die for eyelashes and a heart for others.
I wanted to be like Ashley because she's got porcelain skin and a sarcastic twist. 
I wanted to be like Natasha because she's funny and bold and willing to take on any adventure.
I wanted to be like Jessie because she's sweet as sugar, real as Survivor, and hysterical to boot. 

I wanted to be like them. And, the things I admired most in their lives still remain so. But instead of letting what they've got overshadow my perceptions of myself, I've learned there's things I've got that others admire. 

I've got a lot of attitude despite my small size. 
I've got a head of hair that's unruly and thick, but amazingly healthy. 
I've got big baby blues that look almost as deep as I in thought. 
I've got more heart than I oftentimes know what to do with. 
I've got a sense of humor that makes up for any smarts I might lack. 

I wanted to be like them until I realized I'm happy to be me. A me that isn't lion haired or uber-personable, but a me that is natural and joyful and loved. A me that's happy to have friends like them whose pieces I can appreciate while having friends like you who come to this space and share the bits of you that stir up that same want. 

I want to be like you because you're honest and open despite doing hard things. 
I want to be like you because you bring inspiration and thoughts that spur on my own. 
I want to be like you because your words move the hearts of many.
I want to be like you because you are magnetic. 
I want to be like you because you're beautiful inside and out. 

I want to be like you and, instead of being comparison-fueled and jealous, I find myself inspired. I'm learning what it means to be vulnerable, bold, and brave in a community of women who are doing just the same. How lucky are we? 

30 comments:

  1. You are all of those things and so much more my friend. I'm here to remind you if you forget.

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  2. I love this post!! It is absolutely amazing!! It's a great reminder that we are all amazing & shouldn't compare ourselves to each other. We all have our own strengths & God provides everything we need to know at that time.

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  3. I think I've been blessed in that I've never really struggled with jealousy. I appreciate the person I am--and yet I do see a lot to admire in other women--my sisters and friends and those I meet. I know I'll never have some of the natural gifts that they have--but when we have different strengths and gifts and traits, we can help each other!

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  4. Katie @ A Beautiful Little AdvJanuary 6, 2014 at 7:40 AM

    SO well written. You are speaking from my heart my beautiful friend. I've struggled with comparing and wanting to bend and break myself to be like others. There is so much freedom in stepping away from that. I wish I could do it more often.

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  5. beautiful! we should all love and empower ourselves with our strengths because trust me, even the most amazing woman has her own insecurities and 'issues'. no one is perfect but it's important to do our best with what we have :)

    kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  6. how weird is it that we have the exact same blog post title today yet are blogging about totally different things? pretty weird. but agree, we shouldn't compare ourselves to everyone, we are lucky how we are!

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  7. Beautiful!! It really can be so hard to see others around you and not compare yourself. I love that you are being inspired instead of being jealous. It's pretty amazing.

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  8. "I've got a lot of attitude despite my small size.
    I've got a head of hair that's unruly and thick, but amazingly healthy.
    I've got big baby blues that look almost as deep as I in thought.
    I've got more heart than I oftentimes know what to do with.
    I've got a sense of humor that makes up for any smarts I might lack."
    My fav part because its all so true. You are you and we love that about you!

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  9. such a beautiful post, Amber! I think that we can all learn to be happy with ourselves and not constantly compare ourselves to others. thanks for the lovely reminder :)

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  10. I struggled with this for such a long time....it is so beautiful when you are brought to a place where you can take a look at yourself and genuinely be happy and proud of who and what you are. It's true that we are all so uniquely amazing! It makes my heart happy to know you've discovered your awesomeness :)

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  11. Sometimes we get so caught up looking at other people and their good, admirable qualities, that we forget to step back and appreciate our own. This is a great reminder!

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  12. This is beautiful & so are you. We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others and wanting what they have & we sometimes miss out on seeing the beauty in ourselves!

    Jamie @

    The Growing Up Diaries

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  13. Umm...I want to be like you! Xo!! I have been practicing more of looking for the good in people, because its there...and the more I look for it in others the more I find it in myself rather than envy and all things negative. You da best!

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  14. I just... this. So much this.
    A major thank you to Shannon for re-tweeting this, because it is just.. everything.

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  15. This is so great! Thanks for writing what everyone has thought at some point or another in their life!

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  16. You are uh-may-zing. I want to be more like YOU! :)

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  17. Great post.
    I want to be like Amber Minegar, I mean Thomas ;) because
    1. She is consistent with running and dominates marathons
    2. She is original with her blog content, and can touch lives with her posts because she is a great writer

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  18. And somehow I know all those things can be said about you too! We are peas in pods boo.

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  19. Thank you Nicole! :) I always thought comparison was all bad... Until I realized that some of the things I love so much in other women are things I can work towards!

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  20. I'm so thankful it resonated with you Shannon! I definitely have good days where there isn't so much of a struggle and I feel more confident than anything... Others are a mess of frustration. Thankfully, it's a process and I just have to work at each day's adventure!

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  21. It's so, so, so easy to lose track of our strengths and beauty when we're busy looking at and comparing to others! Now we can go ahead and add admire yourself to our To-Do lists!

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  22. Johanna, I'm so glad that it resonated with you. :) Some days we just need to remember what beautiful, amazing women WE are.

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  23. Oh girl. You just speak so sweetly to my soul. :) I want to adventure in Africa so maybe we're even!?!

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  24. Sarah, thank you for pointing out it's something we think about at different points in our lives! It's so easy to localize it to high school or college, but it's a daily struggle! :)

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  25. God HAS created us so individually... Yet we all want to be the same. :) So thankful for your sweet soul doll.

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  26. How in the world did we share a title, write about different things, and yet talk about the same ideas?!? So proud of the crazy good minds that make up #amblene.

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  27. I struggle with this too. I want to be accepted & everything to be fine and perfect. I need to tell myself that I have all the knowledge I need right now.

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  28. Well blonde looks natural on you. On me, I got sick of how fake it looked. And I'll take my lions mane since it means thick hair with volume, even if it involves a ton of work to tame it. Gotta learn to love what we have instead of wishing for something else.

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